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I love you; I love you not

Lillie C.
December 8, 2011
Filed under Opinion

Dating is a perfectly normal thing to do in high school, right? Well, I’m beginning to think that the only thing normal about these relationships is the over-use of “I love you” and “I want to be with you forever”.

Teenagers are creatures of habit, and the only reason why teens feel the need to say it is because it’s on every TV show and movie on record. Love is when you are willing to accept flaws and work past problems, not smother the problems with fake “I love you’s” and promises of forever.

I think dating teenagers need to take a step back and do a little self-evaluation on how they really feel, not on what they THINK they feel. If anything, your “love” is just infatuation. I know it makes you feel all warm and fuzzy inside to hear how much someone loves you and wants to be your everything, but nine times out of ten, that isn’t going to happen in the long term.

Statistically speaking, the odds are not in favor for teenage relationships lasting past teenage years, much less college. It is the rare exception to find your “soul mate” at a young age. Two weeks of texting and walking together in the hallways of your alma mater does not qualify as a happy relationship that equals love! Suzy Q here is “in love” with Johnny. They hold hands in the hallway, they hang out on the weekends, they talk to each other all the time about how they promise to get married one day and live happily ever after… then BAM! Johnny breaks up with Suzy Q over a text message claiming that he just “isn’t ready” for a serious relationship. So now, Suzy Q is heartbroken and wondering why the “love of her life”, Johnny, broke all of his promises and left her!

That situation is all too common in high school, and it needs to stop. Telling someone that you love them is fine, if you really mean it. Love grows over a great length of time, not in the span of a few days. Truly loving a person is a rare and happy occurrence that needs to be kept sacred and special, not just another passing phrase that two kids say to each other in the halls.